Dealing with dinosaurs

General Details
Working mother
Investment Banking
Type of leave:
Number of years professional experience:
6-10 years
Length of leave:
4-5 months
Type of experience:
Work pattern on return:
Flexible full-time
Message I didn't have a great experience. I was a sell-side analyst in investment banking, and when I announced I was expecting my first child everyone was supportive. However my boss dropped hints that i needed to come back to work as soon as possible, and indeed when my last day in the office came round, presented me with a gift, then declared (in front of everyone) "you can only keep this if you come back to work by April!" (it was January). we settled on May. He also told me he didn't think women should work and have children, and that having a nanny was 'cruel'. Going back to work was really tough. I couldn't get into the office before 8am (most others started at 7.30am) due to the time my childcare started and a 1.5hr commute - but there was no sense of flexibility or understanding from any of my 10-strong (male) team. funnily, they all had stay at home wives. I went back to work full-time w/ 2 days a week from home - this was widely understood my colleagues as part-time, and communicated to clients as if it were. I resigned a year later.


Anonymous Posted On 29th Jan 2020 at 08:31
Sounds like constructive dismissal and you could definitely benefit from legal council.
Anonymous Posted On 10th Jul 2016 at 07:44
You should all get legal advice as you are being dos rinsed against - it can be hard going fighting back against a big firm but you will be surprised at the outcomes.
Anonymous Posted On 16th Jun 2016 at 10:46
I too am surrounded by dinosaurs in a male dominated banking environment. They all have stay at home wives or no children. The very few females around do not have children. I was treated horrendously on my return to work after 1 year maternity. I had to fight to the death to get 1 day working from home. In order to get this I had to agree to no longer be responsible for managing my team. I was given no other responsibilities and very little else to work on. I am currently just in limbo with a strong feeling they are not trying to get rid of me completely. So unfair.
Anonymous Posted On 15th Mar 2016 at 18:55
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Anonymous Posted On 1st Mar 2016 at 12:56
Sounds really bad. Most of my colleagues are male with stay-at-home wives. I'm about to go on maternity leave. Will wait and see.
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